My future ex was talking to a woman friend the other day and she was telling him she wishes she could go out at night more – she loves going to clubs and shows, but her husband is such a homebody and likes having her home at night, so she makes sure she’s home every evening to spend it with him.
My future ex asked her – “Well, what do you do, at home with him? She replied he usually sits on the couch and watches TV and falls asleep within an hour.”
He was surprised by that. I was surprised he was surprised. I said “I’ve done that for you for years. That’s just something women do.”
There are so many little self-sacrificial things that so many women do that men don’t even notice.
No more of that now.
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I almost had a mentor. I’d gone through all the training at Fresh Start to be eligible for one.
They assigned me to a woman who took almost 2 weeks to call from the time they gave her my information. They said she was travelling, and then sick. Ok.
She finally called early last week and left a message saying: “Here’s my cell phone and work phone. It would be best to call me at home tonight.”
She didn’t leave her home phone number. I called her on her cell and left a message. The next day I called her on her work phone and left a message. 3 days after that, I still hadn’t heard back from her.
I just called Fresh Start and cancelled our future relationship. She sounded nice and in the past I might’ve kept trying and waiting. But I’m learning some things are not acceptable, and they show their cards early. It’s better to call it now than 30 years in.