I’m so glad I’m going to be single now.  The things we do for love – it’s kind of crazy.  From this view from the outside, looking in at everyone else’s “love” relationships, I’m starting to feel just fine about not having one of my own. 

I had a long talk yesterday with MJ about men and jealousy.  MJ is gorgeous.  She loves her husband, who is not gorgeous.  Recently, a close friend of theirs said to MJ’s husband “How did you get so lucky to get such a beautiful wife!” 

Her husand got furious and snubbed [the friend], then gathered up his wife (MJ) and they left abruptly, leaving the friend sitting there, feeling terrible for saying such a horrible thing.

I said to MJ, that sounded like a compliment to me – that he must be pretty wonderful himself to have attracted such a wonderful wife.   MJ thought so too, but that’s not how he took it.  Apparently he’s very insecure, and filtered the compliment in as something like: “you ugly shlub why would anyone good want you.”

I have another friend, AC, who had a really great friend, VK.  Handsome, sweet.  He adored AC.  I hadn’t seen VK around in awhile, and then when recently when I asked AC about him, she gave me a weird, evasive kind of answer. Yesterday I learned the inside scoop.  Apparently AC’s husband was so jealous of VK, that AC had to break off all contact.

Before I got married, I had some pretty great male friends, but for reasons like the above, I broke off contact.  I’m sure I was jealous & possessive too.  But one would hope that with maturity some of those social restrictions couples put on each other would go away. 

Maybe, maybe not. Perhaps love doesn’t last forever, but high school does.

I’m looking forward to once again to having close friendships with men.  They are half the population after all.  And if/when someday I again meet a nice guy that I want to settle down with, I hope we’re not jerks.