I had lunch today with my friend KP who’s in a life situation similar to mine – she’s around my age, has been married most of her life, and is also going through a divorce. Only difference is, I’m divorced and still living with my ex, and she & her husband are not yet divorced, but he’s moved out.

KP and I talked about our dreams, goals, and plans for the future, and what we’re going to do when we’re finally, truly, on our own.

I asked her if she had done any dating yet, and she said no, not until she’s officially divorced. She asked me if I was dating and I said no, not until I’m officially not living with my ex.

She expressed worthy goals and plans. She wants to travel, get a new car, maybe go back for her masters, and join the Mile High club.

I said to her, with all the new airline regulations, it will probably be easier for her to get her masters than to join the Mile High club.

She said no, someone she knows has a Cessna with a big bed in the back and his business is taking couples up in his plane so they can qualify for membership.  So all she will need is a boyfriend.

I said to her, if she shares her goals and dreams with men that come into her life, she shouldn’t have any problems getting dates.

She admitted I had a good point.  But for now, those dreams are for the future.

Re: dating, we’re both thinking, maybe mid-2009.