The divorce papers arrived in the mail today.

My ex was pretty upset, but it wasn’t quite as dramatic for me. We’ve been going down this path for 2 years and I’ve used up all my tears.

It was a little hard taking the wedding rings off. We could’ve prolonged it – waited till a later date and then done something ceremonious. But I said I think this is like a band-aid, where you can either rip the whole thing off quickly and be done with it, or keep it slow and painful and then have to go through this again.

So we both took ours off and put them upstairs in safe little boxes.

I said “look at the bright side. They’re solid gold and yours is probably worth a lot.”

His ring is a lot bigger than mine. When we bought them 30 years ago, his cost 5 times as much as my more petite, delicate one.

Fortunately we both had plans at night we had to get ready for. He had a gig and I was meeting EJ.

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I’m doing a one-woman show this summer at a theater downtown and EJ is one of the most incredible people I know, and my director. We worked together about 8 years ago, and just started working together again last week, at which time I ran down my new show for her.

Some of the things I was doing were good, and some of what I was doing just cracked her up, but not in a good way. When she imitated me, I cracked up too.

Anyway, Carrie Fisher was doing a one-woman show here this weekend and EJ said we ought to go see that, so we made plans for last night.

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First we went to this amazing little Italian restaurant. I’m usually a lo-carb kind of gal, but they had a potato-topped pizza there. It sounded really good and it was.

Then we went to the show. It was entertaining, although not what either of us had expected, and a few more lessons in what not to do.

Afterwards we went out for dessert to a restaurant owned by a friend EJ’s. We sat down in a bar area with the owners and one of their friends, a handsome cardiologist from out of town. He had a carafe of really good wine and poured us all a glass.

We toasted my divorce and spent the rest of the evening chatting, laughing, drinking great wine and eating hand-made mulberry ice cream (the chef had picked the mulberrys that morning) and coconut macadamia wafers.