It’s a sad commentary on society and trust and relationships when people feel they can’t be respectful and reasonable to each other without legal documents in place.

We signed our final papers in the mediator’s office last week. There are still some loose ends that need to be cleared up, but our decision is to move forward anyway and work everything out over the next few months. In regards to those loose ends, the mediator advised: “well….. I suppose that’s alright,…. but I wouldn’t recommend doing it that way…. in case you two start fighting….”

Then today I called our auto insurance company to separate our family policy into two separate ones. I asked if we should/could consider staying together on the family plan. She said “well… I suppose that’s alright,… but I wouldn’t recommend doing it that way… in case you two start fighting…”

Everyone assumes that because we’re getting a divorce, that we’re these little time bombs just waiting to go off on each other and make each other’s lives a living hell.

We’re not. We’re two relatively reasonable human beings trying to work through this in the best possible way like the reasonable human beings that we are.

I do not need to be protected from myself, my decisions, or the friends I choose (in this case – my ex). So unless it’s a specific legal issues (like you legally just can’t do something), or unless I ask, I’d appreciate all the well-meaning people that I hire, who barely know me, to keep their opinions and assumptions to themselves.